One of the most powerful tools you have is your voice. Our ability to communicate is powerful because it gets the emotions we feel on the inside out. Getting your emotions out is emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically healthy. I do not mean if you are angry, start cursing someone out. No. We have to learn and practice healthy ways of expressing our feelings.
One way you can do that is by writing, either in a personal journal or a blog. When we can get our emotions out in their rawest form, they are no longer circulating in our bodies. Negative emotions, thoughts, and feelings have certain energies and frequencies that affect our bodies down the the blood cell. Another benefit to writing the emotions down, especially the raw and nasty ones, you avoid hurting anyone else. You know, as i know, when we react in the moment, we can say things that can be hurtful to others, which only adds to more negative feelings like guilt.
After you get out all the feelings on paper (or blog), you can sort through them in your conscious mind. If you think about something in your head only, you are stuck in the emotional part of the brain, which is not consciousness. Did you know that? In order to be aware and think clearly, we have to be in consciousness. So, in order to do that you need to have your feelings OUTSIDE of you, tangible, be able to see them. When you are able to process the feelings, you can then make better choices on how to approach a situation.
When you’ve processed your emotions and you still feel the need to address something, then you must take action. You can not let that brew inside of you. It is very important to express yourself to others about how they made you feel. Sounds easy, right? We all know it’s not and we avoid it because of fear. We fear the other person’s reaction. That’s why we hold back from doing many things we truly want. NEWSFLASH! You cannot control how people will react. Your feelings are YOUR feelings and you only have control over those. How other receive that information is not your concern. Now I’m not saying be nasty in your approach. If you speak your mind and address what needs to be addressed, the rest is up to them. If you avoid speaking up because of other’s reactions, you are allowing others to control you. This will lead to many things: anger, resentment, depression, etc.
Love yourself enough to know that you and your feelings matter. If someone can’t respect that, then you may want to consider adjusting the time you put into that relationship/friendship. You do not want to surround yourself with people who will not respect your emotional feedback, and vice versa.
Find your voice. Be empowered!