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Is there such a thing?  Can you really fall in love at first sight?

I think we first have to define what love is.  According to Merriam-Webster love is:

a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.

I used to believe in love at first sight but I don’t anymore.  But only because I learned what real love is.   The bible defines love this way:

“4Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

5It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

6It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].”

 

That comes from 1st Corinthians chapter 13.  Also known as the “love chapter.”

So learning what true love is, can it really happen at first sight?

I think an interest and affection can come at first sight, but love, love takes time.

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Let’s be honest: Dating is getting tougher.

Let’s be honest: Dating could be easier if women didn’t make the 5 following mistakes:

Do nothing.  Some women believe that when the time is right or when they will the least expect it, it will happen: they will meet him. Let’s be honest: if you are reading this blog you don’t believe in this saying anymore and you are willing to take a more pro-active approach. You are right: you will meet him because you make it happen.
Wait for men to make the first move.  Some women wait for men to find out that they are single and make the first move. Let’s be honest: it doesn’t happen this way anymore. Men rarely face their fear of rejection unless you clearly show them that you are interested in them. Either look at them with your best smile to let them know you are interested in them, or go to them.
Believe that they will be accepted the way they are.  Men have choice but let’s be honest, they will always go for feminine women: a woman who looks after herself, dresses like a woman, has discrete makeup, combs her hair, and more importantly behaves like a woman. They may accept you the way you are after you prove them that you are a woman worth having, not before.
Don’t know what they are looking for.  Some women cannot find their man because they don’t know what they are looking for in a man. If they knew it, they would be looking for it and would stop looking once they have found it. Another alternative is that they expectations are so high that they have become unrealistic. Be clear and it will happen
Wait for the man to do all the work.  Some women think that their date must do anything: look for the venue, arrange the details, pay the bill, make conversation, etc. This may sounds like the ideal situation, but it only depicts you in the worst way possible: someone who is dependent. On the contrary show initiative and interest in him and the dating process, and you’ll win him over in no time.

 

Ever feel like you’re not good enough? Ever feel like curling up in a ball on your bed and staying there forever? Ever feel like people don’t understand you? Ever feel like you’re living a fake life? Ever feel like you’re meant to do more? Ever feel selfish then guilty? Ever feel completely stumbling through the day? Ever feel like you just need a few days to yourself? Ever thought about living somewhere isolated? Ever been scared of ending up alone? Or not finding love? Ever thought about never being loved? Ever thought of failure?

I guess this is sort of a heavy post, but really, if you can’t handle it, then leave. The thought of that made me smile. But actually, if you are just going to judge someone’s blog, tumblr, twitter or other form of self expression, then don’t continue reading it, just leave. It’s not your place to make any judgments, about anyone. You don’t know them. Even if you walk a mile in someone’s shoes, you’re not walking through their whole life. I’m not going to lie. For me, sometimes it’s a struggle to get up in the morning. And I’m not talking about the early wake up time.

I’m talking about the thought of facing another day. Another day in the same place, following the same routine, with the same people, and the same feelings of stress, anxiety and frustration. Another day working towards a goal that society has placed upon us. Even teachers admit, we don’t have freedoms, we do what the system wants us to do. If we don’t, we don’t survive. Compare this to The Hunger Games.  No, I’m not a Hunger Games freak, but what’s the problem of being one? & if you haven’t read the books then you should check them out.

Our situations and theirs are analogous. The districts do what it takes to survive, that happens to be doing everything the Capitol tells them to do. Because the Capitol has all the power to destroy the districts. The districts sacrifice their children each year for the hunger games and for what? To teach them a lesson about revolting? No, it’s just for pure entertainment. Humans like to watch others fail to feel superior. In reality, they do not know what it is like to be in another person’s situation. All they do is think of “clever” commentary while they watch with popcorn from the sidelines. We live in a society where we can either be set up for success or for total failure. Yes, you can blame us for failing, but the world doesn’t want just all to succeed. Because if everyone succeeded then the word would be useless. What would success be if everyone experienced it? But forgive me, I’m diverging.

Life is tough. Yes I understand. Yes I understand that I have it better than a lot of people. Yes I understand that I am very fortunate for the environment I am growing up in. At least I’m aware of all this. Some people complain about how hard their life is; their parents bought them a car, pay for their gas, pay for college, pay for an iPhone, pay for a laptop, and yet they’re making you pay for those shoes? WOW YOUR LIFE IS DIFFICULT, EXCUSE ME WHILE I LOOK FOR TWO SHITS TO GIVE. I’m just so tired of people.

I guess it all goes back to human nature. People always aren’t satisfied. They will always want more. We are run by greed, and it will be the death of us. Some people live without running water. Some people live with tarp walls. Some people don’t have parents or any relatives. Some people cannot provide for their families. Some people don’t know what it’s like to sleep in a warm room. Look at where you are right now, and then think about those people. You’re fortunate aren’t you? Just because someone drives a beat up car, doesn’t mean you should question their character. We have gotten so materialistic that it sickens me.

Sometimes I look at people and just shake my head. Because people disappoint me.

 

Once upon a time bullying use to just be name calling or shoving in the schoolyard. Home provided a safe haven to hide. However a new complication has arisen in the somewhat twisted tale of life, technology. A tool which was said to enhance or make life easier is functioning to do the exact opposite. With improvements in technology, the increasing number of youths with mobile phones and the rise in popularity of social networking sites the issue ofbullying has transcended the boundaries of any physical zone and has become a twenty four hour a day global means of harassment. Even more alarming is the deadly effects of this and the impact it has on everyone in the victims life.

This post was inspired by an episode of 48 hours titled Bullying: Words can kill which documented the lives of children and teenagers who had been the victims of bullying as well as those who had been victims and saw suicide as the only way to end the trauma. It was one of those stories that had you in awe the entire time. Why? continually sprang to my mind. What did such treatment achieve? What was the point?

How could these children, because in many cases lets face it that’s what they were, be so cruel to another? Being told by another person that they were nothing, no one cared about them and that they should go hang themselves. Wow! Unbelievable! Adding to this were mechanisms such as Facebook, with Facebook the abuse was not limited to face to face contact during school hours. The bullies were now in your school, your computer, your phone and any other form of contact which was available.

I was truly shocked by this documentary and as someone who has experienced bullying it is a horrible feeling made even worse by the lack of escape from the perpetrators. However the biggest tragedy is how many lives were lost and continue to be lost as a result of the immaturity and negativity some believe they can express towards others.

So to those who are currently experiencing this people do care and you’re stronger than you think. It is easy for someone to point out another persons flaws or talk negatively about them it takes a genuine strong individual to, despite that, not act in the same way. They may have the bigger mouth but you’re the bigger person.

This is not to say you should remain silent. While you may feel alone and like things will never improve talking to someone could ease this burden. It can be a doctor, a friend, a parent, anyone! Documentaries like this highlight the true rareity of life and its importance. It shows how something as simple as a few hurtful words can seem bigger than life itself.

Lifeline 13 11 44 (24hr crisis line)

Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800

 

Criminals do not just attack any target. They often choose those who are more assailable, especially women. Women and children have become the primary victims of violence these days. It can be threatening for women to step out of their homes all by themselves. The situation makes them feel like they are being stalked upon. True enough, the world is getting unsafe for the majority of us. When you try to watch the news on the television, you would always hear crimes and other unpleasant happenings in the society. Thence, if you want to veer away from being caught up in a threatening situation, you might as well learn these safety tips that were especially created for vulnerable women like you.

Sharpen Awareness
Self-defense does not actually entail just those hard kicks and punches. That’s exactly not what self-defense is cracked up to be. Do you know that the greatest self-defense you could have is raising your awareness? By merely sharpening your senses and becoming more aware, you can do so much to protect yourself. Thus, the moment you go out somewhere especially when you’re going on your own, your level of awareness should definitely be heightened. Don’t appear too frightened though because you will be an easy target for the bad guys out there. You just have to be alert of what’s going on in the surroundings without ever losing your composure.

Trust Your Gut Feeling
You should also learn to trust your gut feelings. Others call it instinct. Nearly each of us has their own gut feeling but not everybody pays attention or even tried to listen to it. When you can feel that something isn’t just right, don’t disregard it because more often than not it can become real.

Martial Arts
The different forms of martial arts are always an option when talking about self-defense for women. You need not really get martial arts lessons from a studio. Often, they would teach you martial arts strategies that are nearly impossible for you to perform. You have a huge resource. You can browse through the web for related videos. It would also be great if you can have a personal trainer who can help execute an actual scenario of the danger that might just be prowling around.

Arm Yourself
These days you can already have several personal non-lethal weapons such as taser guns, stun guns, can safe, maze sprays and a whole lot more. If you want, you can also own a gun but this involves a number of risks that you definitely don’t want to be in. On the other hand, you may opt to use those non-lethal weapons because these pose lesser risk especially on your part. These are also pretty nifty to carry. You can place this in your purse without getting noticed. These are just some of the security tips you can master.

Nonetheless, before anything else happens it would be best to escape your attacker and yell for help. Getting away from the offender would always be the best choice. So, carefully plan your escape.

 

Before I address the bail amount and George Zimmerman’s release, I wanted to focus on Zimmerman’s apology.

I wanted to say I am sorry for the loss of your son,” Zimmerman said.  “I did not know how old he was. I thought he was a little bit younger than I am. And I did not know if he was armed or not.

I don’t know if the apology was sincere or genuine, nor do I care.  It just came too late.  Why didn’t he apologize before on that little website of his.  An apology is not an admission of guilt, after all.  It would have been nice to see or hear that he sympathized with the Martin family for their loss as well as the public outrage from it.  I don’t want to pick his statement apart, but I don’t get what he means by not knowing how old Trayvon Martin was. Did it matter? If he were older, would this have been any better?  Also, whether he was armed or not is no longer the issue.  He was told by the emergency operator to not approach the “suspect.”  The self-defense crutch no longer stands.  The photo of the back of his head bleeding doesn’t prove anything.  Of course, I believe his apology was a shameless attempt at sympathy from the court, general public, and the media.  So, he’s sorry, but he gets to go home to his family until trial.  Trayvon Martin doesn’t have that opportunity anymore.  Is there any appropriate apology he could have given to the grieving Martin family?  I don’ t think so.

In regards to the bail, I think it’s ridiculously low based on his past, history, and the level of attention this case has received.  This guy shouldn’t be on the streets roaming free.  He’s exhibited violent behavior in the past, and wasn’t he missing a few days before he finally turned himself in to the police? As with the apology, I don’t know what an appropriate bail amount would be, but I just know he shouldn’t be released after spending only a week or more in jail.  Is the bond hearing any indication or foreshadowing of what the verdict will be?  I’m sorry I just don’t have that much trust in our justice system.  I desperately fear the courts will hand down a not guilty verdict based on the Florida laws, and I’m even more fearful how the public will react to it.

 

George Zimmerman pursued Florida teenager Trayvon Martin as he tried to run home and provoked a confrontation before shooting Martin in the chest during a struggle, prosecutors contended in court documents made public Thursday.

The allegations appear in a probable cause affidavit prepared in support of a second-degree murder charge against Zimmerman, who made his first court appearance earlier in the day in Sanford, Fla. A judge found probable cause to proceed with the case based on the affidavit, and Zimmerman entered a not guilty plea, his attorney said.
Zimmerman’s arraignment was set for May 29. The charge carries a maximum sentence of life in prison.
In the two-page affidavit, which was filed with the court Thursday afternoon, investigators for special prosecutor Angela Corey said Zimmerman “confronted Martin and a struggle ensued.” Zimmerman has claimed he shot in self-defense Feb. 26 in Sanford after Martin knocked him to the ground and began beating him about the face.
Read the probable cause affidavit (.pdf — includes offensive language)
Martin “was on his way back to the townhouse where he was living when he was profiled by George Zimmerman,” the affidavit says. “Martin was unarmed and was not committing a crime.”
Zimmerman called police for advice because he thought Martin was suspicious, the affidavit says. He was told to wait for officers to arrive, and when the police dispatcher repeated his instructions for Zimmerman to stop, Zimmerman disregarded him, it says.
During the police call, the affidavit says, Zimmerman “made reference to people he felt had committed and gotten away with breakins in his neighborhood.” While talking about Martin, it alleges, he referred to “these f—ing punks” and “these a–holes” who “always get away.”
During this time, the affidavit says, “Martin was on the phone with a friend and described to her what was happening. The witness advised that Martin was scared because he was being followed through the complex by an unknown male and didn’t know why.”
When Martin tried to run home, “Zimmerman got out of his vehicle and followed Martin,” it says.
“Zimmerman confronted Martin and a struggle ensued,” it says.
A person’s cries for help could be heard in recorded 911 calls, the affidavit says, and Martin’s mother “identified the voice crying for help as Trayvon Martin’s voice.”
SOURCE: M. Alex Johnson, msnbc.com